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How to"FEEL" Beautiful at 50 and Beyond? I was curious.

Updated: Mar 30, 2023


Rebecca Guevara Wingler

Creator of Color Language of the Soul workshop Series

Artist/ Creative Life coach/ Certified TNM Coach



I remember approaching Fifty!

I remember wondering what would happen next. I was definitely curious and not necessarily in a positive way.

I wondered how I would feel, moving forward.

I'm talking about all of me, not just physically, my body but more importantly my mind and spirit too..

Most of us in the States, have been groomed to believe that turning "50" for women, is a time to feel nothing but dread.

For a very long time, approaching midlife has not been something to look forward to in our society, especially women because there is the sense that they have lost much value and don't have much to contribute or to offer after 50.

Wow! what are we doing to our young girls and women with these attitudes.

And now that I'm well beyond 50 into the next decade, I realize how wrong this message is.

Not just from a general sense of respect but wrong because, it's a big fat lie! B.S!

What have I learned regarding midlife 10 years in, and then some is this.

That in these years of life, we women are at our finest in so many areas.

We have to peel back layers of stories and beliefs we've adopted that just aren't valid.

Why women continue to be empowered and beautiful after 50 and beyond.

  1. Wisdom: They have a wealth of knowledge and can offer guidance and advice to others. Someone who has gained wisdom through their experiences can offer profound insights in a way that is elegant, inspiring, and beautiful.

  2. Confidence: They have learned to be comfortable in their own skin and have a strong sense of self. My own experience has taught me that this confidence only gets better beyond 50!

  3. Resilience: They have likely faced many challenges in their lives and have learned resilience. Having more of an ability to bounce back from setbacks and coming out even stronger. Strength is beautiful.

  4. Creativity: There is more time and more resources to pursue creative endeavors. More time to spend painting, writing, dancing. and other experiences that allow them to express themselves. Creativity opens up a spirt of beautiful possibilities.

  5. Generosity: Women over 50 often have a strong desire to give back and make a positive impact in the world by serving others. They may volunteer their time, donate to charities and mentor younger women.

  6. Beauty: This sounds so cliche, Inner beauty translates to outer beauty. It happens to be true! Don't we experience this with all human beings? Many mature women I know are beautiful also because they have experience, character and perhaps have developed their unique sense of style. With age comes a sense of self acceptance, and often radiates kindness and grace making women even more beautiful. This is a creative time to recreate or enhance a style that brings YOU light. Not necessarily what's trending.

What is never Beautiful?

1. Trying to be something you are not: The media often portrays aging for women in such a negative light, with focus on youth as the only way for women to be beautiful as an ideal. This creates unrealistic standards and expectations that are difficult to live up to, which can lead to some women feeling inadequate.

We carry around this energy that is not a high vibration.

2. Living for your own self gain: Serving others can make women beautiful in a metaphorical sense, rather than a physical one. When helping others we feel a sense of connection and we have a greater sense of purpose and fulfillment. This can enhance our overall sense of well being and happiness which exudes light and beauty. Women are valid for their unique strengths and contributions regardless of whether they are involved in acts of service or not, however, NOT honoring life around us, and the wellbeing and betterment of others is not attractive let alone beautiful.

3. Lacking gratitude: Expressing gratitude enhance relationships and social connections. This strengthens bonds and creates a positive atmosphere of appreciation and kindness naturally appearing more beautiful to others, because it radiates positivity and warmth. An attitude of gratitude can enhance our inner beauty coming through to the outer.

4. NOT making your wellbeing a priority. Nothing kills beauty faster than this! Your mind, your body and your spirit needs to be a beautiful priority in a women's life at all stages but personally as we mature even more so.. Things that are not healthy.

Empty sex partners which can lead to a sense of being dismissed, used, sad and empty. Not good for our mental attitude.

Not getting regular exercise: it is very important. to move! It improves physical appearance tones muscles reduces body fat improve overall posture . So lack of movement halts the release of endorphins which improve mood and contributes to overall more attractiveness.

Drinking alcohol want to look awful quickly? Drink wine daily or any other alcohol beverage and receive these perks! Brittle hair, fine lines, bags under eyes, broken blood vessels, age spots, saggy skin, wrinkles, dark circles, dry flaky skin. Yay!

Not feeding your soul and mind: Have you stopped listening or reading books and learning. Did you stop practicing mindfulness, or no longer meditate or connect with nature? Instead repeating negative messages and fearful thinking?

It's so important to be mindful of our thoughts and what we feed our minds. Feeling inadequate, fearful, or dismissed can make us loose the love and security that the universe holds for us all.

Practice behaviors and attitudes that make you feel alive. This will make you glow.


In closing

"The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul."

"You don't stop laughing when you grow old, you grow old when you stop laughing".

Beautiful transformation at any age and at any stage is a way of living.

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Thank you for reading!

With Love and Wonder.




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