Updated: Nov 24

CURIOUS ON LIFE: the Blog vol. 5



Rebecca Guevara Wingler

certified life coach/ artist/ grey area drinking

 


Having a grateful attitude can be challenging when we are experience difficult situations. Intellectually we know of course that there is much to be grateful for.


Most of us have a roof over our head, we have drinking water and know when and where our next meal will come from.

We probably also have a source of heat to keep us and our loved ones warm and safe from the cold.

But what about when something unexpected or horrible is happening in OUR family? We feel off balance, and unwell, I know I do. There can even be fear and a sense of hopelessness,...........sadness.


What is sadness and why is it an emotion we cannot escape? It is one the the seven universal emotions experienced by everyone around the world. It is an emotional pain that usually has a clear cause. Feeling sad is normal.

If you feel sad, you might also drink more alcohol than before, I know I did. You may have trouble sleeping. You might lose interest in activities that you used to enjoy.


Sometimes we go to great efforts to make life perfect and pain free, however sadness will inevitably come. Sometimes society sends messages that tell us we should always feel happy and be positive. This is unrealistic. We are human beings after all. We all feel sadness at some point in our lives.


As a life coach I have tools to help through these tough emotions, and I've learned the importance of centering myself. Life is fluid, nothing ever stays the same.

Even our darkest moments will see light of day. And when things are going smooth and everything seems aligned, we can take in a breath of satisfaction with a sigh of relief.


So, what can we do to help navigate in healthier ways through these times of distress? Especially when gathering for a Thanksgiving meal or the Holiday season?

  1. Acknowledge what's happening. It is okay to not feel okay. Denying such feelings may force them underground where they can do more damage. Cry, and notice if you feel relief after the tears stop.

  2. Prioritize taking care of yourself. Write in a journal, listen to music, or draw to express the emotion of sadness.

  3. Be mindful of how you are feeling. Think about the feelings in a non judgmental way and ride the wave of the experience.

  4. Maintain connections to others understanding what we can and cannot control.

  5. Know when sadness turns into depression. Seek help from a professional if your sadness becomes overwhelming or feel unmanageable. You are not alone.

What can the emotion of sadness teach us?

Sadness can increase motivation. Sadness can trigger effort and motivation to deal with a challenge in our environment.

It is also an active emotion. Like anger, it insists that we separate ourselves for a moment from the outside world and look inside ourselves to know what is happening.

When something is happening in your life that is causing this emotion, be patient with yourself and with whoever, and what ever is the source of your sadness.

Here are a few ways to start feeling more grateful even when we are experiencing sadness.

Notice good things - look for them, appreciate them. Express your gratitude to yourself, write them down, or simply thank someone.


"You cannot protect your self from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness. " Jonathan Safran Foer



Thank you for reading, and Happy Thanksgiving!

With love, your coach

Rebecca





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CURIOUS ON LIFE: the Blog vol. 4


Rebecca Guevara Wingler

artist/ certified life coach/ grey area drinking coach/ reiki practitioner

 


Nature is a MUSE

Hiking in the Texas Hill Country

Muses are my backlight, the sparkle and voice of inspiration in my minds eye and ear. I have several muses, they arrive at any time of the day or night, and it's always exciting.


The name of my art studio, the space where I allow creative flow to enter, is named

MUSA MIO STUDIO, Spanish for My MUSE.

In the ancient Greek, the Muses are the inspirational goddesses of literature, science and the arts.


Nature, as a muse, is a force of inspiration and deep emotion that always makes me curious and I wanted to know why?

I'm curious about the powerful sensations when experiencing an amazing landscape on a walk or hike, observing the light change as the sun filters through.

Or standing at the edge of a cliff overlooking the sea, out at the horizon as the sun is setting and warm breezes and smells whirl around me. I can be left spinning.


Natural beauty, feels sacred, mystical and is dizzying at times. Artists, like myself, have been inspired to photograph it, sketch it, or put paint on canvas to express it.

Mother Nature is so attractive and intoxicating,

Is it the birds, the taste of fresh clean air or the beautiful silence?

All I know is that I need it in my life to be creative, calm, and have a sense of wellbeing.


"NATURE DOES NOT HURRY, YET EVERYTHING IS ACCOMPLISHED." Lao Tzu


Sunset Sky

Noticing nature and even viewing scenes of nature reduces anger, fear, stressful thoughts and can increase pleasant feelings.

It contributes to our wellbeing by reducing blood pressure, heart rate, muscle tension and the production of stress hormones.




As a certified life coach, one of the areas I'm trained in, is the realm of "grey area drinking."

I guide others who are curious about their relationship with alcohol, and want to make it small and irrelevant in their lives. I have been through that journey myself. You can read about that here curiousonlife.com

Anyone going through transformation and growth, will learn from nature.

According to some scientific studies it may even reduce mortality.

When we sit in the stillness of nature, we self reflect. It soothes our nervous system.


So go ahead, step out doors, or look at amazing images of nature. Sit in a garden and observe the plants, the patterns, the texture, the color. Open a window and listen to the sounds of wind, or smell the freshness of the air. Take a deep breath in, and in your release be grateful for Mother Nature.




"THE FORCES OF NATURE ARE CONSTANTLY SUPPLYING US WITH NOURISHMENT."

Pandit Rajmani Tigunai



Thank you so much for reading.

With love and wonder

your coach,

Rebecca




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Updated: Oct 30

CURIOUS ON LIFE: the Blog vol 3


Rebecca Guevara Wingler

artist/ certified life coach/ grey area drinking coach/ reiki practitioner level 2

 

How I use centering practices to quiet down my judgment brain.


I was curious about why we judge ourselves and others.

It seems to me we can be the harshest on ourselves. We end up frustrated, hurt and confused.

Constant judgement can feel like being at war with ourselves. I once read "the way you measure yourself is how you measure others, and how you assume others measure you."

Being fair to yourself isn't always easy.

Overthinking gets us in a trap, one we wish we could escape.

When we self judge we sabotage our own happiness and the relationship we have with ourself. Self Judgement involves fear, it poisons the present moment, this very moment.

What does it sound like? It's like beating your self up, thinking you should do something different from what you are or be somewhere different from where you are now.

We need to Shut Up and Shut Down what I call my "judgement brain", if even for a little while.


If we allow these feelings and attitudes to linger on and on then we can create chronic stress upsetting the body's hormone balance, damaging the immune system, and depleting the chemicals in the brain required for happiness.

There is good news!

Thankfully there are centering practices to bring us right back to the here and now. Many of these practices can be done sitting, standing and lying down.

I'm listing a few here for you to try out for yourself. Maybe you'll try something new.


 

TAI CHI

This ancient form of self paced, noncompetitive gentle physical exercise is a

mind body technique.

“Chi”or life force, is the energy current that runs through our bodies and provides circulation, nutrients, and minerals.

This art has been used by doctors of integrative medicine and acupuncturists to restore the body to its natural health state, and help us achieve a state of zen.


Benefits of Tai Chi

Deceased stress, anxiety and depression

Improved mood

Increased energy and stamina

Improved flexibility balance and agility



 

REIKI

A form of energy healing that allows the universal energy to flow. Its origins are from Japan in the early 20th century.

This centering and healing technique promotes relaxation, reduces stress and anxiety through gentle touch.

Reiki practitioners use their hands to deliver energy to your body, improving the flow and balance of your energy to support healing. Our chakras may be out of balance and after

a Reiki session this can be corrected.

Reiki helps to support our autonomic nervous system (the part of our nervous system that control involuntary actions such as the beating of our heart and the widening or narrowing of our blood vessels). toward states of safety, rest, recovery and ease.


Benefits of Reiki

Improved mood and emotional well being

Reduced stress and increased relaxation

Better sleep, improved insomnia symptoms

For people undergoing surgery, lower blood pressure, anxiety, pain rates


Those with cancer experience improved anxiety and pain management.

 




GRATITUDE MEDITATION

Experiencing gratitude, thankfulness and appreciation tends to foster positive feelings, which in turn contribute to one’s overall sense of well being.

Research has shown that the attitude of gratitude helps us deal with adversity, build strong relationships, and can improve sleep and immunity. It also decreases depression and anxiety. #begrateful


 

Talking a Walk

Walking increases our blood flow to the brain and body, It has positive effect on moods. When you feel off balanced and need to center why not put in earbuds listen to music that inspires you, take pictures or listen to your favorite podcast. It will get you out of your head and into a space of learning and creativity. Research shows that 20 mins of sunshine will provide us the vitamin D our bodies need.



In Review

Negative thoughts can be reduced by centering ourselves. Just by practicing this, it restores our inner balance, because we focus on the present.

Centering allows us a moment of focus where we can self reflect and work on bettering ourselves.


Thank you so much for reading.

With love and wonder

your coach,

Rebecca









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